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Fashion calculus is over. Fashion anarchy is in.
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Levelling up
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My school’s graduation ceremony was an opportunity for me to celebrate my students and also myself. -
Pride before the fall
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Thunder Bay’s leading Pride organizations provide an object lesson in how not to practise solidarity. -
I have never been more myself, and I guess that makes some people very angry? Whatever.
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Review of Into Light
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This week in my English class, we were discussing representation in media. We looked at the concept along several axes, including, of course, gender and gender diversity. I used the representation of trans people in media as an opportunity to discuss the impact of misrepresentation. For the end of the lesson, I wanted to show students an example of how representation can be used to fight back. I needed it to be shorter than…
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The girl in the picture
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When you see me, you see a survivor. -
Free: My 2nd anniversary of transition
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I celebrate and reflect on two years since coming out as trans: the joys, the hardships, the freedom to be me. -
Long hair, very much care
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One surprise during my transition has been how my relationship with my hair has changed as I have grown it out, and the way this affects not only how I see my body but also how I move through social spaces. -
While we engage in hypotheticals of free speech and age-appropriateness, real-life trans kids need us. Let’s step up and stop allowing transphobes to derail the conversation.
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Intersectionality means I can’t separate my whiteness from my transness, nor can I ignore how the privilege the former identity grants me moderates the marginalization of the latter identity. We white trans people need to do better at acknowledging this.
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The audacity of coming out
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The transphobic narrative is a lie. Let’s spend more time talking about how awesome it is to finally be yourself. -
Socialized male
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In which I talk to my cis allies about my personal take on the idea that I was socialized male and what that means for my lived experience as a woman. -
Queerness as context
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Knowing I was ace didn’t automatically mean I identified as queer. It took me years of learning (and unlearning) to embrace the larger community. -
The childhood I didn’t have
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Wearing a dress to prom. Figuring out my style over decades instead of a year. Seeing myself represented on TV. Not having to go through the wrong puberty.
These are just some of the experiences from the childhood I didn’t have.
Today is the International Day of Pink, a day started here in Canada dedicated to anti-bullying, and specifically dedicated to stopping bullying against those who experience homophobia, biphobia, and transphobia. So I thought…
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On the International Transgender Day of Visibility, I reflect on why it is important to me that I am a visibly trans woman.
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Femininity is my jam
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Happy International Women’s Day! Last November for International Men’s Day, I wrote about why masculinity is not for me. So I thought I would complement that piece with one for this day, all about why femininity and womanhood are indeed my jam.
As I outlined back in my post about masculinity, I never felt comfortable belonging to that category of man. I never felt comfortable asserting my masculinity. I never looked to other men…
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On this day one year ago, I came out as a trans woman everywhere. After coming out at work, I changed my name and posted on social media, pushed an update to and published a blog post on this website, and then I held my breath and waited. It was the scariest moment of my life.
It was really nice, watching all the supportive and affirming comments come in. Reconnecting, at times, with people who…
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Feeling sexy
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Yesterday I wore a sleeveless mock neck bodysuit with a toucan print to work. I paired it with a black, pleated midi skirt, navy tights, a royal blue cardigan, and a mustard headband. I rocked a little bit of gold and pink eyeshadow. I felt good for most of the school day. Then I went home, and as I was washing my hands, I looked in the mirror. The woman staring back at me—and she…
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Review of Transhood
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It was Christmas Day, and Gilmore Girls was depressing me with its relationship drama, so I cast about for something that would hold my interest but not harsh the sliver of holiday jolly that flickered within my breast. And I found Transhood, an HBO documentary released earlier this year. It promised me a lighthearted look at the lives of four trans kids of various ages in Kansas City. I’m not sure I agree it…
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You hear my voice but you don’t listen
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(TW: (Vocal) dysphoria, misgendering.)
Last week we had a guest presenter in my virtual English class to talk about resumes. I introduced her, and she thanked my co-teacher by first name. When it came to me, with my full name displayed in Adobe Connect, she paused and said, “And how do you pronounce your name, Mr. Babcock?”
She had heard my voice, and despite my feminine first name and femme appearance on webcam,…
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